National Infertility Awareness Week: Our Story

Monday, April 23, 2018


Happy Monday friend! Today's post is a little different than my usual weekend recap. Today marks the beginning of National Infertility Awareness Week. April 22-28th is a week dedicated to bringing awareness to a topic that is under discussed and over prevalent. Today I am guest blogging over at Fertility Bridge and figured I'd share our story here as well. If you've been following my blog for a while, then you probably already know our story, as I documented our IVF journey back in 2016. If not, then keep reading and hopefully you will learn a little bit about what infertility really looks like.

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We are 1 in 8. Did you know that one in every eight couples struggles to get pregnant or maintain a pregnancy? Our infertility story began when we were just dating when a doctor delivered the heartbreaking, unexpected news that it would be hard for us to get pregnant naturally in the future. At that point we knew we would one day get married and want babies so we decided to proceed with surgery, knowing that it may or may not help our chances. These are some scary decisions to make for your future when you are just dating. After surgery it was just a waiting game... we wouldn't know whether it was successful until we started trying to conceive. Fast forward about 4 years. We were married and it was (finally!) time to start trying to get pregnant.

This is where God stepped in, as He always does. I was in PA school and I chose to do one of my elective clinical rotations in infertility medicine. Ever since our infertility journey began it had become so intriguing to me both medically and personally. I told the reproductive endocrinologist I worked with all about our story and asked his personal opinion. He told me that we should go back to our previous doctor for more testing since we had not successfully gotten pregnant yet. So back to the doctor we went where more tests were done which showed that 1) the surgery had not worked and 2) they were concerned my husband may have a benign brain tumor that could also be affecting fertility. An MRI was done which did, in fact, show that he has a benign brain tumor also affecting fertility. With all of these factors, they told us our only option was IVF.


We were referred to UNC Fertility where we met our absolutely amazing doctor for a consultation and more testing and he agreed that IVF was our only option. That was a really low point in my life. I was overwhelmed, ashamed, heartbroken, scared and lonely. I decided that I could either keep it a secret from everyone or I could bravely share our story with the world which is what we decided to do. I am not a sharer by nature so this was a huge leap of faith for me. But I knew that if I stepped out of my comfort zone I could bring awareness to infertility and break the stigma behind it. I prayed that I could help at least one woman not feel so alone by sharing our journey. Since sharing my story, I have been contacted by 300+ women telling me they read my story and it provided them hope or just wanting to talk because they knew I could relate to what they were going through.

Now it was go time! From there we began shots in preparation for egg retrieval. Egg retrieval went amazing and we got 44 eggs, 28 of which became healthy, day 5 embryos. This was such amazing news and a huge relief. I then suffered from ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS) so our fresh embryo transfer was canceled while my body recovered. Six weeks later I was feeling great and ready to proceed with a frozen embryo transfer! We started medications again and on June 24, 2016 we transferred one grade 4AA embryo. It was the most amazing experience watching it on the screen and I will never forgot my doctor saying, "You should be cautiously optimistic!"


Five days later I did what any Type-A person would do and peed on a stick... there was no way I could wait 4 more days for a blood test. A faint line appeared immediately and I was in complete shock! The rest of my pregnancy flew by and at 37 weeks I delivered our perfect baby girl via urgent C-section after 50 hours of labor.]



Struggling with infertility was a huge blessing in disguise. While I would never wish it on my worst enemy, it taught me so much about myself and about life in general. The three things that infertility taught me are:

1) Never ask someone when they are going to have kids. You don't know what they may be going through. They could be going through IVF, IUI, just had a miscarriage, been trying for years unsuccessfully, you name it. Everyone's story is different and 1 in 8 people are struggling to get pregnant. Words can hurt so badly when you are in the midst of infertility heartbreak. Think before asking someone such personal information.

2) Ask how she is doing. If someone you know has shared that they are going through infertility, always say something. I was so hurt by the things that people didn't say when we were struggling. Some of the people I am closest to never said a word to me about it. I know they probably felt uncomfortable and at a loss for what to say, but I will never forget feeling so alone and forgotten by some of my closest friends. Even if you don't know what to say, a simple "I'm thinking about you and praying for you" goes such a long way.

3) Never take a single moment for granted. I am one of the lucky ones who got my miracle baby on this side of Heaven. Not everyone is that lucky and I will never take that for granted. Even the most boring, mundane days with her are the best days ever. At least once a day I think to myself, "I still remember the days I prayed for the things I have now". Infertility has made me so much more patient and grateful. Our battle with infertility wasn't easy but the fact that it resulted in our baby girl made it so worth it. I would take every injection, procedure, tears and heartache all over again to be her mommy.


If you have any questions about infertility or our IVF process I'm happy to talk! Shoot me an email @ davisduoblog@gmail.com

27 comments :

  1. Thank you for sharing your story friend!! It’s so important to bring awareness to this. While I havnt personally dealt with it I know so many close to me have. I still remember an email exchange between us (before we were big besties) that you told me you were pregnant. I was so thrilled for you and now I love that I get to watch seeet vivi grow up!!

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  2. what a lovely post my friend! i still feel baffled when people ask couples about children really. you never know what someone may be going through and i wish people could be more sensitive. anyway, your journey was obviously beyond worth it and i'm sure you two are even stronger for it. still so happy you have that sweet baby girl!

    xoxo cheshire kat

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  3. I can’t even begin to say thank you for this post. We’ve chatted about this before and I’m still just waiting-but ever so greatful for what we have. We are going through a round of IUI right now and I’m trying not to stress to much. So thanks for sharing this at this moment. I needed it.

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  4. I love that you always share so much about your journey! You bring so much awareness to it which is so wonderful! I love watching you both with sweet Vivi now and she sure was worth the wait!

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  5. This post is everything. And the recommendations all ring true! Thank you for being so forthcoming with your journey. You were a great encouragement to me when I was going through it (a few months behind you) and you encouraged me to be forthcoming with my journey as well!

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  6. I'm so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and talking openly about y'alls journey - it is so difficult, yet so common and definitely provides couples hope. So thankful God blessed y'all with the most precious little girl :)

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  7. SO beautifully written, Owen! You approach this subject with such poise and class. Thank you for sharing and hugs as you continue your journey!

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